First, let me say I am, for the most part, pro-life. I didn't make the decision outright it came from years of experience and reflection.
What I find ironic, in a way, is that for decades women have figuratively ripped men to shreds for having any opinion whatsoever about abortion or not (even though men have a 50% stake in the act of pregnancy). "It's my body I can choose what I want to do with it" women have said quite viciously in some cases.
Along comes a law, passed by both Men AND Women allowing late-term abortions. The irony, suddenly it's okay by Women for Men to have a voice and speak out against these new laws. Why was it wrong for Men to have an opinion about it for the last three decades?
I will probably regret posting this later, but for now I have decided to be more open and honest with my readers. I want to talk about all issues in our society, as I would in a private diary, and not just share "fluffy bunny" views of the world.
So here we go. New York has made changes to their abortion laws that now stipulate the ability to abort an 'older' unborn child if the mother's life is at risk.
First of all, the mother's life is at risk in ANY pregnancy. The simple response of pregnancy is to put the woman's body through a myriad of changes including chemical and psychology instability ending with the stretching and potential ripping of the physical body in order to purge a being the size of a watermelon through a hole that's normally below the size of an egg.
I think they have to be very specific what factors will determine that a woman's life is in danger versus the norm for being in 'that position'. I think about all the cases out there where doctors have 'bent' the rules a little to favour the patient and worry that this will eventually lead to abortions done by aesthetic versus health.
So, my views on abortion have evolved somewhat over the decades I have been on this planet this time around. You will find these opinions to be somewhat vague and uneducated because, to be honest, I have never really sat down for any great length of time and thought about the specifics involving being pregnant. Why would I? I am a Man and I cannot get pregnant, simple as that.
When I was a young teenager, I feel I was more "pro-choice" than anything else, but even then, there were limits. If the unborn child had developed enough to be called an "unborn child" then you were pretty much stuck with it, in my opinion, unless some substantial health risk threatened the mother's life. Even then the risk would have to be extreme as being confined to bed and a c-section were ways around many risks.
For a while there I supported the idea that an abortion could be granted if the woman was raped but I was still undecided if this included it being done by a family member. While incest is, of course, horribly wrong, there are less variables involved than if the rape had been performed by a stranger. Neither way is right by any means, but a rational person gets what I mean.
When I was married, I started to value unborn life more. I think it was about the time of the talk that my views on abortion started to really change. I started to support "pro-choice" but, myself, leaned toward "pro-life", there were still many factors involved, including external ones like rape and internal ones like genetic defects in the unborn child.
It was my view, then, that a genetic defect in a child should be taken into consideration. Now I am not talking basic things like hair colour or such, I mean things like physical and mental "abnormalities" that would prevent the child from leading a "normal" life. I know, simple minded reasoning but we are not all scientists regardless of what Trudeau thinks.
A young girl I knew got pregnant, at 16, by her boyfriend at the time, and was considering aborting it because of societal and family pressure. Her mother opposed the pregnancy and advised her to get an abortion because it would "ruin her life" being pregnant at such a young age. (her mother had her first child at 21). I talked to the girl, just my opinions, and she ended up deciding to keep the baby. I was told about four years later that the child, a boy, was around today because of the talk his mother and I had had those years before. I heard that, since then, she has had two more children by the same man.
It was in the early 2000's I saw a movie called Gattaca (1997) which shifted my views significantly in regards to genetics. As IMDB summarizes "A genetically inferior man assumes the identity of a superior one in order to pursue his lifelong dream of space travel." but it goes much deeper than that. I recommend watching it.
For a while I did not think about pro-life or pro-choice because it did not directly involve me. It was not until around 2015 that I started to examine my position on the subject and decide where I stand.
I am "pro-life". I think that, unless in extreme cases where the mother's life is guaranteed to be 'at risk' then one should carry out the pregnancy. If you do not want to have a baby, then don't get pregnant. Note that this leaves the question of rape unanswered and I just do not know what to say on this one, for now I will leave that section blank.
I think if you participate in sexual activity you must accept the consequences. There is, however, the matter of child support (or not) which I will leave for another day.
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