May 22, 2017
I am usually a very tolerant person of someone’s ignorance, even when it is proven they are wrong and they continue to argue I simply step away, let them burn out and then rejoin them when they are ready to deal with reality. I am tolerant in that I accept and maintain this merry-go-round attitude again and again until finally either our paths drift apart or they realize their mistakes and grow.
It may sound cocky or egotistical but that would only be the case if I attempted to present my own views without their comments to support them. I am talking specifically about situations where people will argue up and down they did not mean the thing they said but when you call them on it they pretend like it never existed to begin with. I find this “ignore it and it will go away” attitude to be both immature and ineffective. How can anything be resolved, be learned from, and move on from if one party involved simply decides that the original issue or something said does not exist – even when it is in black and white.
In recent years, and perhaps influenced by my short life in Alberta, I have grown a filter that does not tolerate these people and accept them for their faults so much as block them out entirely. I have learned that some people just can not be given information that might help them, or even me, to grow and evolve and that is okay with me. I am realizing, just this month that I do not need to tolerate or accept these people into my life or continue to maintain them in my life. They are clearly on a different level of experience and awareness, be it further along or further back than I am, and attempting to keep in pace with them does not help me in any way.
This week I chose to block someone who I have been friends with online for about a year now. It was not an easy decision at first. They are very set in their opinions and when reality does not mesh with them they become insulting and play out the ‘poor me’ drama. Basically the ‘poor me’ person, when they are challenged in a way that attacks their personal stance on something, will immediately play out the victim card. They select something in their lives, usually an economic or health situation, to use as a defense for their negativity and unsubstantiated position. In the past, twice now, I have stepped away from this person only to accept their challenges as an excuse and accept them back into my life again. This will not happen a third time.
This time I chose to block them once and for all. I am not sorry that I had to and while it is nice to have one more friend here or there, than I did before, there are seven billion other potential friends on the planet who might not become so personally offended by their opinions being challenged.
Was I right? Did I prove my point? Who cares! The point is that I do not need to prove when that other individual is at fault, even though I did. I do not need to keep accepting that person back into my world if they refuse to appreciate my role within it. I do not need to waste any more time on them. They clearly are not accepting of what I say and that is fine. I do not feel that I should continue this course with them. Oh well. Life goes on, and so it shall.
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